Dating after loss
The love felt for the late spouse is likely to increase in light of the prevailing idealization of the relationship and of the spouse. Although love for the deceased spouse may increase as times goes by, a certain disengagement from constant occupation with the deceased occurs over time, facilitating attempts to adapt to the new relationship.
Although a new love might physically replace the previous one, from a psychological viewpoint, the widow will now love two people at the same time. The connection to the deceased spouse is likely to remain throughout the widow's life, but its nature will undergo many changes.
In most cases of widowhood, if there was a positive attitude toward the spouse during his lifetime, this is enhanced. In a sense, the new lover brings the widow back to life.
This is due both to the tendency to idealize the past and to our sense of propriety in not speaking ill of the dead. As Annabel, a widow, said to her friend who ignited in her the desire to make love: "Thank you for bringing me back to life." The widow faces the challenge of entering into a new and meaningful spousal relationship without letting the former relationship be forgotten or denied.
Romantic love is a central expression of a good, meaningful, and flourishing life.
Similarly, it was claimed that "All animals are sad after sex." The widow's new romantic situation Is the human heart large enough to encompass more than one romantic love?And is widowhood the proper time to fall in love again?The end of love and death For many people, romantic love forms an essential aspect of their lives; without love, life may seem worthless, devoid of meaning.The death of a spouse places the widow in a new situation, which has similarities to other situations in which love ends; nevertheless, widowhood has unique aspects. Realizing the difference in circumstance enables a widow not to feel that she is compromising or settling.Whether a relationship is average, as most relationships are, or very good, or very bad, the ending of any personal relationship changes one's circumstances. Despite the fact that her late husband raised the bar very high, she may believe that there is now a different bar.